I look back with regret, feeling I have let many people down over the years due to my drinking. However, it is important to fully accept our mistakes and learn from them. In recovering I hear a lot about blame and justification. And how this was related to drinking. I was certainly one that could justify my drinking, all of us "problem drinkers" can. It was always someone else's or somebody else's fault. It was my job's fault, my family's fault, my health, my financial situation, and the list goes on. You name it, there was always an excuse to pour alcohol down my throat to oblivion.
Using these excuses to drink simply doesn't work. We have a choice. We can grow or give up. Today, I choose to learn and grow. I learned I needed to stop being everything to everyone and just become a better person. This takes time and work. Recovery is work. But, it sure beats the hell out of waking up every day in terror and misery. That's the alternative. So the work that is required is worth it.
Second, we need to understanding the signs of alcoholism. Ironically most information on the subject comes from people who don't suffer from alcoholism. I am an alcoholic and suffer from alcoholism so I am going to endeavour to share some critical information. A lot of information I read on the internet is not only time consuming but is confusing and misleading.
Alcoholism is a disease. Understanding alcoholism is vital since there is a great deal miscommunication and misinterpretation about the disease. Alcoholism is not curable. It is not the result of weak willpower. Well intentioned people (just like me) thought I just had to try harder and exercise more willpower to manage my drinking. Alcoholics try to quit. Alcoholics fail. Alcoholics make promises and really try to keep their promises to cut back, slow down, moderation or quit, but they can't. Alcoholics continue to disregard the fact, they cannot quit on their own. Alcoholics continue to justify why they need to drink. For example, a stressful day, death in the family, financial problems, relationship problems, I deserve a treat. Anything! An individual either has alcoholism or they don't. And if a person has the disease of alcoholism, they will never have the ability to drink alcohol like a normal person; ever.Listed below are two critical points we need to understand about alcoholism:
1. The lack of ability to limit or control drinking after starting. An alcoholic fails constantly at keeping drinking under control even with the very best intentions. Any apparent control is often rare and never lasts. On most occasions, there is no turn off switch. General regret about drinking too much, usually unintended, is the next morning thought upon awakening. This over-drinking, shame and regret is a consistent pattern. Normal drinkers do not experience these tendencies
2. Alcoholics have an abnormal desire to drink. A constant preoccupation is how I would best describe it. Alcohol is everywhere in an alcoholic's life. A constant awareness of it with everyday planned around alcohol. An alcoholic is usually thinking about it. For example; when will I drink next, how much I will drink, when I will buy it, how much I will buy. An alcoholic doesn't necessarily drink all the time; however the thought of it is not far from the mind. Normal drinkers don't do this.
For instance our need for acceptance and approval; our search for purpose and direction; and understand about feelings of insignificance and lack of security need our attention.
If you need assistance finding help, you can send me an email at sober.coach.one@gmail.com
Using these excuses to drink simply doesn't work. We have a choice. We can grow or give up. Today, I choose to learn and grow. I learned I needed to stop being everything to everyone and just become a better person. This takes time and work. Recovery is work. But, it sure beats the hell out of waking up every day in terror and misery. That's the alternative. So the work that is required is worth it.
Second, we need to understanding the signs of alcoholism. Ironically most information on the subject comes from people who don't suffer from alcoholism. I am an alcoholic and suffer from alcoholism so I am going to endeavour to share some critical information. A lot of information I read on the internet is not only time consuming but is confusing and misleading.
Alcoholism is a disease. Understanding alcoholism is vital since there is a great deal miscommunication and misinterpretation about the disease. Alcoholism is not curable. It is not the result of weak willpower. Well intentioned people (just like me) thought I just had to try harder and exercise more willpower to manage my drinking. Alcoholics try to quit. Alcoholics fail. Alcoholics make promises and really try to keep their promises to cut back, slow down, moderation or quit, but they can't. Alcoholics continue to disregard the fact, they cannot quit on their own. Alcoholics continue to justify why they need to drink. For example, a stressful day, death in the family, financial problems, relationship problems, I deserve a treat. Anything! An individual either has alcoholism or they don't. And if a person has the disease of alcoholism, they will never have the ability to drink alcohol like a normal person; ever.Listed below are two critical points we need to understand about alcoholism:
1. The lack of ability to limit or control drinking after starting. An alcoholic fails constantly at keeping drinking under control even with the very best intentions. Any apparent control is often rare and never lasts. On most occasions, there is no turn off switch. General regret about drinking too much, usually unintended, is the next morning thought upon awakening. This over-drinking, shame and regret is a consistent pattern. Normal drinkers do not experience these tendencies
2. Alcoholics have an abnormal desire to drink. A constant preoccupation is how I would best describe it. Alcohol is everywhere in an alcoholic's life. A constant awareness of it with everyday planned around alcohol. An alcoholic is usually thinking about it. For example; when will I drink next, how much I will drink, when I will buy it, how much I will buy. An alcoholic doesn't necessarily drink all the time; however the thought of it is not far from the mind. Normal drinkers don't do this.
For instance our need for acceptance and approval; our search for purpose and direction; and understand about feelings of insignificance and lack of security need our attention.
If you need assistance finding help, you can send me an email at sober.coach.one@gmail.com
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