Pages

Ads 468x60px

mercredi 4 mars 2015

General Information To Know Regarding Codependency

By Leslie Ball


Relationships come in many different forms. Co-dependent relationships are considered dysfunctional. They involve one person who enables or supports the irresponsibility, addiction, immaturity, poor mental health or underachievement of another person. One of the major markers for codependency is the excessive reliance on other people for identity and approval.

This concept is thought to have come from Alcoholics Anonymous. During the AA process, it is often discovered that issues are not just those of the addict but also their friends and family members. The co-dependent ideology ties into old psychoanalytic theory that passive dependent personalities will attach to those with strong personalities. Dependency is used often in psychology literature.

Different symptoms and behaviors are attached to this. This is especially the case because the concept has grassroots beginnings. The definition for this action may vary based on the source. In general, it is considered either subclinical and situational, or an episodic behavior of those with dependent personality disorders.

Broadly speaking, a co-dependent is one who is unable to function from her or his own self. The behaviors and thinking of those persons is organized around that of another person, substance or process. People who are addicted to drugs, sex, gambling or other things might therefore be considered codependent. A raw definition of it suggests that a person must be psychologically or physically addicted and the other person is psychologically dependent on the behavior. Sometimes people use the terminology dysfunctional family rather than attaching co-dependent to classify the disease.

Showing feelings or behaviors that are caring does not make a person fall under this category. The term is mostly reserved for those who display an excessive amount of caring that becomes unhealthy. Healthy caregiving, and even empathy, are done by consciously, by choice. Co-dependents are different because most of their actions are done on impulse and without real consideration for possible consequences and sacrifices that are being made.

Some professionals, including scholars and treatment providers, suggest that this behavior is an act of over-responsibility. This is what takes place when positive actions go awry. It is important that in relationships there is a balance between responsibility to self and responsibility to others.

This is recognized as a disease in which people have lost sight of themselves. In many of these cases, people give less priority to their own needs and are instead preoccupied with those of others. These relationships typically involve issues around intimacy, high reactivity, denial, dependency, boundaries, dysfunctional communication and control. Often there is some imbalance between the two parties involved, with one person being abusive or completely in control, or enabling or supporting the bad behavior of the other person.

Some of the most common symptoms of co-dependents include unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, external referencing, low self-worth, denial and dishonesty, and overwhelming desire to be accepted. These people might also be unable to tolerate being left alone, have chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom, seek affection, and subordinate their own needs to those of the person they are involved with. This type of behavior can take place in any kind of relationship, including community or peer, friendship, romantic, work or family. People who recognize these dysfunctional relationships are encouraged to seek professional help.




About the Author:



Aucun commentaire:

Enregistrer un commentaire

 

Sample text

Sample Text

Sample Text

 
Blogger Templates